my DA epiphany

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toymachine11

Published: Jul 18, 2006

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_{July 18th, 2006

Mood: Pensive
Listening to: Faster Kill Pussycat - Paul Oakenfold ft. Brittany Murphy}

Wow. It's been a long, long, long time since I've posted a journal.

I received a soccer scholarship to Canisius College, in Buffalo, New York. Class of 2010. I was even in my city's newspaper for this achievment. Of course, it's not an achievement for me, I don't think I'm that good of a player honestly. Ah well. Away from home sounds good right now.

This summer so far has been amazing.. much due to some family being over from Poland. I'm barely ever in the house, going to different places like Niagara Falls and Toronto pretty much everyday. Oh, and soccer season is going well, for me at least, maybe not the team. I have 12goals in 9games. Hooray.

Now, the epiphany part of it all. I've been thinking lately.. why do I have a DA account? Well, to have a main account for my club, the-zodiac-club.. and to be an artist. Or at least, reach into myself to find a more creative side. Self-discovery. I have all these photos of myself on my account, but why? Haha, I was an attention whore when I posted those photos [still am, btw]. Buuuut, I have decided to delete all pictures of me submitted to DA. They don't show my creative artistic side..only my creative physical side. Oh, and I don't want others pretending to be beautiful me on myspace or something. Lawl.

I will be posting new photos from my cottage soon, I took a few good ones.

_{Secret On How To Get Everyone To Like You..
Knowing how to give the perfect compliment!
Studies show, genuine compliments make people more willing to help you. People are more likely to remember you. And they'll think of you more highly.

But that doesn't mean you should go around telling everyone they look fabulous – the compliment has to be sincere to be effective. So here's what the experts say about compliments:

•    First, men get a third of the compliments women do. Because people assume men don't need them. So if you praise a man, not only is he more likely to remember you, he'll really appreciate it.

•    Who else doesn't get much praise? The boss. According to communications professor, Dr. Mark Knapp from the University of Texas, studies show that bosses view those who compliment them as more capable at their jobs! So go ahead and tell the boss he did a good job, just make it sincere and not forced. If you're a brown-noser, the boss will see right through it and think you're less capable.

•    Here's one compliment that can't lose: "You crack me up" or "You have a great sense of humor".
Dr. Knapp says everybody wants to think they have a great sense of humor. If you validate that, it'll really resonate and make the person think more highly of you. And here's another reason that's one of the best all-purpose compliments – because you can't be funny without being smart. So it's a double compliment.

•    To make a compliment more memorable – throw in a question. Like, "What a delicious meal – where'd you get the recipe?" That advice comes from the book "How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends".

And here's the only time gossip is good – when you're saying something nice about someone else. When it gets back to them, and it will, it'll be more powerful. We're conditioned to be suspicious of direct compliments. But if it's passed on, it's thought to be more sincere.}

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